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Five Tips For Improving Personal Happiness in Your Life

Happiness does not always come easily for every one, it is something that requires conscious effort to attain, and you have to actively seek out happiness it does not just drop into your lap. But it is definitely worth pursuing because achieving happiness is in fact the ultimate achievement in these times when life can be so hectic, stressful and every day we are seeing more and more things to be unhappy about.

The good news is that if you are willing to put in a little effort you can have all the happiness in life that you deserve and you will soon understand that it was worth the effort and that you made the right decision when you realise how differently you feel. Happiness is a personal choice and you can make it work for you so that you are able to live a joyous balanced and abundant life.

After all what is life without happiness? I would say that it is meaningless and far more painful than it needs to be. So how do you go about bringing lasting happiness into your life? First you need to set goals so that you fully understand what it is that you really want and then you have to figure out a way to get there. You need to make your life so special so that you are filled with the joy of living each and every day. Setting goals can also give you the motivation to move forward and commit to making positive changes in your life.

Another thing to remember is that the best place to live is in the present. Do your best to forget the past and do not waste time worrying about the future. If you live your life in the present you will never miss a moment of pleasure. So often you hear people say, “oh I wish I had of paid more attention to…” when ever someone says those words understand that that person is not living in the present, they are either in the past or the future that is why they missed what ever event it was and most often they are lamenting because it is something that they will never be able to get back, it is gone forever because of their lack of focus on the moment.

Of course there are times when you must think of your future to make sure that you are making the right choices and also make plans to bring some fun to your life, so visiting the future from time to time is healthy and necessary but you do not need to live there.

Being able to keep the negative things, people and influences out of your life is also important. It will not be easy to do because we are constantly being bombarded with negative information from the media and the Internet, but you can limit your time with these negative forces, limit the time you spend watching news channels, do not buy the newspaper every day or tune your radio to an easy listening station. I know that you believe you will be out of touch if you do not buy a paper everyday but I beg to differ.

The amount of media that surrounds us each day it is almost impossible not to know what is going on, so if you make a conscious decision to turn off the TV at news time once in a while you will still be able to remain currant without risking saturation. If you are actively seeking happiness it is imperative to keep the negative things out of your life.

A healthy lifestyle is also helpful if you are to stay happy and healthy. Try eat the right way and to think about the choices that you make for your body. Keep the negative things out of your body so that you are able to be emotionally and physically happy as well.

Finally try to maintain good feelings within; keeping these good feelings in your mind enables you to give to others. Feel the emotions of being happy be pleasant to others and smile; you will be surprised just how much a few extra smiles a day can change how you’re feeling. Helping other people to feel good about themselves is also a great booster, try to bring joy to others and keep thinking good thoughts. Do not let negative forces pull you down and definitely do not intentionally bring others down.

The more pleasant you are the happier you will feel, you will begin to see more and more things to be happy about and your joy will soon begin affecting those around you also and before you realise it you will have created a happy harmonious and balanced life.

Carol King is a Law of Attraction expert and life coach, she is also the founder of Missing Ingredient Coaching. If you are struggling to apply the Law of Attraction to your life, let Coach Carol direct you to a life of lasting happiness, peace and prosperity that you deserve. Visit Coach Carol

Goal Confusion to Goal Clarity – Jump Start Your Transformation Here!

Do you know what you really want? Whenever I ask this question to someone, the reply is incorrect most of the time. What I have realized is, they don’t say “what they want”, but they say “what they think they want”. The most common reply I have heard is “I want to make a lot of money”. But when I ask them how much they want to make, they are never able to quantify the amount. This is precisely why they never end up achieving their goal – because they themselves don’t know what it really is! If you really want to succeed in achieving your goal, you need to know what you “really want”.

At one time I was so fed up of this reply, I decided to push the discussion and see where it goes. So when one Mr X replied that he wanted to make a lot of money, I asked him how much, but he didn’t know. So I asked him what he wanted to do with the money. Turns out, he wanted to buy a 2008 Ferrari F430 Coupe, so that he can show it off to his friends and make heads turn when he’d drive around town! So I asked him if his goal was to probably earn about $200k (the approximate cost of the Ferrari) and he agreed with me. I then went on to ask him if he has considered the maintenance costs, insurance costs and fuel costs. He hadn’t thought of that and he added a few grand to his goal. I then asked him if he has considered having some cool accessories for such a nice car, and he hadn’t! So he again marked up his goal. I then decided to let him work on it himself, so I told him to think and make a list of any other costs associated with the car that he could envisage. He thought for about 15 minutes but couldn’t come up with anything.

I then told him that there were 2 very important things he was not considering. The first was the life style cost. What is a life style cost? He had never heard of this before, so I went on to explain him with an example – let’s say you’re driving around town in your spanking new Ferrari and you’re feeling hungry. So will you turn into a McDonald’s for a burger, or will you consider a luxurious one where the rich and famous hangout? After all, you’re driving a Ferrari, right? You can’t be cheap! I went on to explain him that his attire must also include brands like Prada, Berluti, Brioni, Giorgio Armani, Rolex, etc.

I then asked him if he has considered the taxes he would be paying first, before he could spend the money. Boy, was he shocked! He needed to reverse calculate the amount after taxes, so he had to add the tax amount to arrive at his goal! He finally decided to reconsider his goal.

This little example will help you when you decide to make goals. But before you start off on your goal setting spree, do consider the S-M-A-R-T principle.

SMART means: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Bound.

Specific: Your goal should state the expected outcome very clearly. Try to be as specific as you can about your goal, like how much, for whom, etc.

Measurable: Your goal should be measurable, else how will you know when you’ve reached it? It could be on a scale (like 1 to 10), percentage, etc.

Achievable: When creating your goals, make sure that they’re achievable. It’s good to aim high but don’t push it to an unachievable point. Consider your current situation, resources and time availability.

Realistic: You need to face some facts – it will not be easy to overtake your competitors who have bigger and better resources at their disposal. Concentrate on reducing the gap, step by step.

Time Bound: A goal doesn’t hold value unless it isn’t time bound. Have an end date for each of your goals.

You should certainly consider all 5 of these principles, to increase your chances in achieving your goal. If the goal is materialistic, make a list of all the things that you want, with the cost to acquire it. Then simply add it all up and you will know that your goal is to make an x amount of money.

Closing Tips: At any given time, do not try to achieve too many goals. Three or four should be enough so that you can give focused attention. Don’t go beyond six or seven. Also remember to categorize your goals into short term, medium term and long term.

I hope you found this article useful. If you’re really serious in learning more about this subject, I urge you to visit http://www.bharatbhasha.com/self_improvement.php where we cover this in more detail. It is a free content site, so do drop in!

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Love, Think and Eat Your Way to the PMP Exam

The PMP exam is not your average high school examination where you can cram like crazy, feign failure of physical fitness on the day of the exam, and cross your fingers your teacher will swallow your Oscar-worthy performance hook, line and sinker. In short order, you have to prepare most rigorously for the PMP exam.

After all, passing this Professional Management Institute-administered examination is not just one more gem in your crown of achievements. You can cash in on your credentials with juicier job opportunities, for one thing. However, age, health, and lifestyle demands can get in the way of preparation and concentration. You need these brain boosters to get your brain power back on track while you enjoy doing them.

Love, Love, Love

Literally, that is. When you feel like slacking off on your review, you should make love to your wife or girlfriend. You have to be warned though: great monogamous sex is still the best mood booster.

And when you mood is better, you feel better, you concentrate better, you memorize better and you understand better. Now, if only you will not fall asleep after all that horizontal ballroom dancing because your PMP exam review materials are waiting for you to caress them, too.

Also, you can love your body by doing simple exercises in between reading and answering your review materials. When you exercise, you improve blood circulation throughout your body, thereby increasing blood flow to your brain. You can just stand up, touch your toes, and do jumping jacks for a few minutes to get your brain juices flowing again.

Furthermore, a hug, a kiss, a few encouraging words to family members and friends to show you care for them is good for your exam preparation. You have to tap into your support system to ensure that you keep your sanity in the midst of it all.

Think, Think, Think

But not negative thoughts. You have to stay positive for most of the times you are preparing for the PMP exam. Remember that what we think, we become. The key is in controlling your thoughts towards the things you desire, visualizing those things clearly in your mind and taking inspired action towards the attainment of your goals.

To achieve a positive state of mind, you have to surround yourself with positive people. You should be around family and friends who will make you laugh and relax, think positive thoughts, share the same interests and understand your PMP exam preparation for what it is - very important to your career but secondary to your personal life.

That being said, you need to avoid people who do nothing but complain about the unfairness of life. You can get depressed and discouraged just listening to them whine.

Eat, Eat, Eat

Just don’t overdo it. You have to eat to keep up your energy. However, don’t eat everything in sight and take the book-under-the-pillow to extremes by turning it into a PMBOK-eating exercise.

Keep these tips in mind when choosing what foods to eat: 1) keep unhealthy fats off your plate; 2) go for dark-colored fruits and vegetables especially spinach and broccoli; 3) eat plenty of fish like salmon, mackerel, tuna and sardines; and 4) chow down on whole grains like brown rice and whole-wheat pasta.

When you have enough love from your family and friends, have positive thoughts and have eaten healthy, you can be sure to ace your PMP exam. Now, buckle down and achieve another feather to your cap!

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Mind Flips and Mental Exercises For Your PMP Training

Possibly more than any other time in your professional life, securing your PMP credentials can take its toll on your mental health. Your rigorous PMP training is a sign of things to come in regards to the 200-question, four-hour Professional Management Institute-administered PMP examination - you will be challenged both physically and mentally.

If you are of sound body, then it is also important to be of sound mind. Clich

Connecting With Loved Ones

As social beings, our desire for connection is a deep and powerful force within us. Babies who do not experience connection with a caregiver do not thrive or may even die. Deep connection with another is one of the greatest joys in life.

Yet for many people, this deep and joyous connection eludes them. Try as they might, they cannot seem to find the connected experience that they so deeply desire.

There is a very good reason for this.

Many of us were brought up to distrust our own feelings and experiences. I was consistently programmed to disconnect from and discount my inner feelings, experiences, and inner knowing. Instead, I was taught to trust an external source - my parents - to define what was right or wrong for me, good or bad for me. The more I learned to disconnect from my feelings and my inner knowing, the more I disconnected from my authentic Self and sought connection from outside myself.

I tried to connect with my husband through being whatever I thought he wanted me to be, and he tried to connect with me by trying to have control over getting me to be what he wanted me to be. We were a perfect pair! No wonder our deep connection with each other rarely lasted for more than a few minutes at a time!

The problem is that can cannot authentically connect with another unless we are connected with our authentic selves. If we are not defining ourselves from within, then we consistently attempt to define ourselves eternally, by doing whatever we can to have control over getting love, approval, attention, sex, agreement, and so on. We confuse true connection with the momentary good feeling that comes from getting what we want from another. We think that relating to another from the wounded ego part of ourselves and getting what we want to feel externally validated is connection. It is not.

Connection with another is a mutual experience of sharing our authentic selves with each other and each receiving caring, understanding, and support - the mutual feeling of being received and cherished for who we each really are. It is truly one of the highest experiences in life. But this wonderful experience is not possible unless we are both able to share as our authentic selves. It is only when we are deeply connected with our own feelings, our own thoughts, and our own inner knowing/spiritual guidance that we can authentically share ourselves.

Sharing our wounded ego selves is sharing who we have created ourselves to be to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. There is no reality, no truth, no authenticity to our ego wounded self. Authentic connection is not possible from an inauthentic part of ourselves. No matter how much you may want the joy of authentic connection with your partner or others, it cannot occur until you authentically connect with yourself.

The practice of Inner Bonding is a powerful way of healing the ego wounded self and discovering your authentic self. These transformational 6 Steps start with practicing noticing your feelings with compassion rather than with judgment. As you learn to embrace your feelings rather than avoid them, you can choose to take responsibility for causing them or for nurturing them. You can move into a deep intent to learn about what self-judgments and erroneous beliefs may be causing your painful feelings of anger, hurt, frustration, guilt, shame, anxiety or depression. You can learn how to open to learning with the highest part of yourself - your Higher Self - who is filled with love and wisdom. You can learn from your Higher Self to define yourself rather than to look to others to define you. You can learn to take loving action in your own behalf. And, finally, you can learn to share your authentic love, caring and understanding with your loved ones.

If you want a deep and joyous connection with your loved ones, then first learn to create that deep and joyous connection with your Self.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” and

Four Tips For Dealing With Frenemies

In the Sex & the City movie, Miranda functions as a friend-turned-Frenemy and helps derail her friend’s dream wedding. At a strategic point in the upcoming nuptials she opens her mouth and actually puts down the idea of marriage to the commitment-phobic groom! In this one act, Miranda puts a nail in the coffin of her best friend’s dream. We will not reveal how things do turn out, in case you have not seen the movie. But there are lessons learned from this scene.

First of all, finding love is a challenge and, unfortunately, friends and family members can sometimes make it even tougher. When people in your inner circle become negative, pessimistic, competitive, jealous, or don’t show you appreciation and/or encouragement, it inflames your own doubts and fears. If you are in a new love relationship, these reactions can come on suddenly, or they may be familiar and ingrained parts of lifetime relationships that are so subtle you may not even be fully aware of them. In either case, unsupportive reactions toward you and/or your boyfriend can pull you both back into being hopeless about love. In extreme cases, they can sabotage a growing relationship, as Miranda did in the Sex & the City movie! Negative reactions from people close to you can even stop you from getting out there and dating altogether.

I call people who interfere with your love life Frenemies. Ask yourself, do any of these descriptions sound familiar?

• A “best friend” who takes an instant dislike to a guy you really like

• A friend who insists that all the “good ones” are taken

• A sister/brother who reminds you of your past failures or the duds you’ve fallen for

• A dad who criticizes any guy you bring around

• A mom who clucks about how men would find you more attractive if you only lost those 10 pounds

• Your two closest friends who are no-shows at the first dinner party you are hosting with your number one guy

These are typical reactions of friends-turned-Frenemies. Here are four steps to take in handling Frenemies and protecting your love life:

Step 1: Uncover Frenemies

Who do you spend the most time with socially? For each person journal about the following:

a) Are they single? Are they in a relationship? If so, do they generally describe it as loving or not?

b) Do you feel good hanging around them? How do you feel right after being with them?

c) Are they supportive of your self esteem and attractiveness?

d) What are their attitudes towards love, men or relationships in general?

e) How do they react when you are in a relationship?

Step 2: Stop Your Whining

Often you are unconsciously encouraging your Frenemies to be negative by complaining to them about what is wrong with your love life. For three days, take a notebook and make a note of every time you complain to anyone. For the next three days complain to no one. Journal about how this feels.

Step 3: Make a List of What You Need From Frenemies

For example, you may need your best friend to stop complaining about how awful men are. You may need your dad to tell you what he really likes about your new boyfriend.

Step 4: Ask Your Frenemies to Give You the Support You Need.

Be straight and honest. Tell them you want to have a positive outlook about love and you need them to be positive too. Most will respond. With the few who do not and continue being negative, move to a more distant, yet polite relationship with them. You have to protect yourself and your own hopeful outlook on love.

Anyone can make a mistake and can turn Frenemy on you, just like Miranda did in the SATC movie. But if this does happen, follow these steps, you will find that you can turn things back around so that you have a truly supportive posse. And by the way, if you and your wonderful posse would like to see if your dating patterns are more like Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte or Miranda, take the quiz at www.mydatingpatterns.com. You can learn much more about the latest research on dating and dealing with frenemies in the new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on the Today Show. For 25+ years she has helped thousands of single women find love. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations & discussion forum visit http://www.lovein90days.com

The Five Secrets of Getting Lucky in Love

Some people seem to have all the luck, especially when it comes to relationships. Meanwhile many of you have had your hearts broken over and over and over again. You wonder, what are the secrets to having luck in love? Well, here they are! I’ve worked as a psychologist helping thousands of singles get lucky in love. And you can too—by using this critical relationship advice with five key dating tips to help you find the love of your life.

1. Trust your intuition!

For example, you meet someone and the chemistry is right on. He/she is flirting all out or saying outrageously flattering stuff to you. You think to yourself, it sounds sincere. You want to believe what he/she’s saying is real and not just a come-on. What you need to do, is step back away from that powerful gab, even for a few minutes and consult your inner voice. That is, feel your gut reaction to this person. That’s where your phony baloney meter is. Trust your instinct—it’s almost always right! Don’t waste time with people who won’t ultimately come through for you.

2. Be still and in the now to find the lucky surprises and coincidences that can turn your love life on.

Most of us are rushing hectically around, getting work done, taking care of errands, running here and there. We don’t take time to slow down and notice what is happening around us. And so we may be sitting next to the love of our lives on the train or standing behind the ‘One’ at the grocery store and never actually speak to him or her. In my book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, I describe a Being-In-The-Moment exercise, where you take 10 minutes and practice slowing down and paying attention to who or what is right in front of you. You would be surprised about the connections, lucky surprises and coincidences you will encounter if you pay attention to the people and things around you right now.

Say hello to a new person every day. He or she may be the ‘One.’ Even if they’re not, every person knows about 200 other people. You never know what love connections may come from a whole new social network!

3. Practice being grateful. Especially for being who you are.

Every day make a list of three things that you appreciate about yourself—even if it’s something small or silly, like having a full head of hair, or your weird sense of humor. Studies show that keeping a gratitude journal is associated with being happy. Getting yourself to be happy to be you is the key to being relaxed and attractive to others. We are all attracted to smiling, warm confidence. So falling in love with yourself is the first step in finding the love you seek.

4. Look for a good person who fulfills three requirements:

- The person is crazy about you.

- He/she is willing to grow and change along with you.

- He or she is a good person

You won’t be lucky enough to find a partner that is perfect right off the bat. The reason is simple: No one is perfect and here’s a news flash: neither are you. Therefore, choose a partner who is willing to grow, whether that involves going to school, therapy or just getting a makeover. If you choose a growing partner you will create a relationship that gets better and better over time: This is your ‘lucky’ ticket to great love.

5. Get yourself a loving mentor.

This is the most critical piece of relationship advice! Find a mentor, a person who you look up to, who is like a good parent or loving benefactor to you! This is someone who believes in you and sees your attractiveness & your unique lovable qualities—a person who gives you courage to go beyond your fears. Spend more time with this fairy godmother/father. Take in what she/he says about you so that you can learn to think positively about yourself, irregardless of your wounds and problems from childhood. Love is very tricky and you have to keep your eye on these positives to get the treasure. By focusing on the luck and love that is already coming your way you will turbo charge your own self-esteem and self-worth and find the relationship that is the gold at the end of the rainbow. For the latest research on creating love that is just right for you read my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love

Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on the Today Show. For 25+ years she has helped thousands of single women find love. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations & discussion forum visit http://www.lovein90days.com

Neil Diamond Life Lessons

The other night I saw Neil Diamond in concert. I don’t know how many of you may be Neil Diamond fans, but I grew up listening to him. Neil Diamond, to me, was and will always represent my childhood.

When I was growing up, my parents always had these Saturday night dinner parties with their friends at which they would drink, smoke some pot (yes I did grow up in the 70’s) and listen to Neil Diamond. I’d always come down and sit in the living room with my parents and their friends as they listened to Neil Diamond.

By the age of twenty, when I’d be listening to Neil Diamond with them my parents’ friends would ask me what I wanted to do when I got older. I’d look around the room and, being a pretty intuitive kid, I’d say “Not this” (because I knew that nobody in that room was really super-connected with their spouse).

I knew that they were eyeing other people in the room. I sensed it. I felt it. I also knew that I never wanted to live in a relationship where I desired other people because I so unsatisfied with the connection I had with my partner.

To me, finding my other half has always been about finding someone who is both my best lover and my best friend. The best lover is the person whose touch and whose taste is everything you’ve ever wanted. The best friend is the person to whom you feel like you can say anything without being judged.

Every time I was in my parents’ living room with their friends, I felt like each and every person was judging every other person in the room (and were even judging themselves). It’s amazing what we remember about our childhood and what triggers childhood memories in us. To me, Neil Diamond triggers those childhood memories.

So the other day when I found out Neil Diamond was playing at the Staples Center, I really wanted to go. I wanted to go and experience Neil Diamond again, but this time as an adult.

The last time I saw Neil Diamond in concert, I was with my college girlfriend Ellen Weinberger. It was a night I wanted to bond with my Father. My Father was someone who divorced my Mom and had a new girlfriend, and I wanted to feel like I was “Dad’s son” (because my Father and I never had that bond).

So Ellen and I went to see Neil Diamond. As a typical 21 year-old, I thought I was the guy who was about to get his first hotel room with his girlfriend and was about to have hot hotel sex. I thought “Neil, you’re cool. Dad, we’ll never really bond together. But Ellen, you and I are going to go and have crazy sex all night long in a roadside motel.”

So, I wanted to go back and experience Neil now as an adult to see what he is all about, because we appreciate something different at every stage of our lives. Not only do we appreciate different things, but we also learn different things.

So this time I went to see Neil Diamond with someone who captivates my mind. What I experienced, learned and felt this time was something totally different. I saw a 67 year-old man on stage with passion in his eyes. During the course of the concert, he told the audience about how often he gets asked when he’s going to quit performing. He said his answer is always “never!” because he gets to touch people’s souls every single day (and was in fact touching 18,123 souls at that very moment).

I connected with Neil in that way because every single day I have an opportunity to connect with all my readers. Every day I look with passion at how I’ve touched the souls of all my clients and all of those who have purchased my products.

Everything I do, I do with passion. I put all of myself into every product I create. When you purchase one of my products, you’re getting all of me . . . but you’re getting me in different stages of my life too.

I am constantly updating my products and adding new volumes to my products. I do this because life changes and evolves, and when I grow and become more powerful as a person I want to share those lessons with you.

I want to share every lesson I learn with you, because life is all about learning and growing. I want you to continue to learn. You should never stop growing.

Sitting with this wonderful person listening to Neil Diamond, I realized how much I’ve grown, evolved and how deep my connection is with everything in life. I also realized that the man standing in front of us on stage is someone who loves his life.

Then I looked at the person sitting next to me and realized I also love my life. I wouldn’t trade my life, my experiences or what was happening in my life at that very moment for any amount of money, fame or for anything else.

Life is something you need to love and to embrace. That is what I learned and how I connected this time around when I saw Neil Diamond.

So let me ask all of you this: What are you all about and how did you connect with life today?

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Breakup Quiz - 20 Questions To Ask Yourself

Being alone after a break up is a challenge, especially at holiday time. Divorce or separation after a long relationship is the number two top life stressor following right behind being widowed. A severe loss can plunge you into depression and health problems. So do not let yourself go for several months without taking steps to recover. A UCLA study showed that being rejected activates one of the same areas of the brain as physical pain! The more ignored the people felt, the more activity they had in the anterior cingulate, which also registers physical distress. In other words, your pain is physiological. But research has also shown how you can recover from loss more quickly. Here are five tips that have helped many people turn this painful time into a whole new rebirth for themselves!

Tip 1. Spend Time with Close Friends

The same UCLA researchers found that spending time and sharing with close friends and offset the pain by causing the brain to release natural opioids, which are like the painkillers found in opium.

Tip 2. Use Anger As Fuel To Better Yourself

If you are feeling angry, channel it into kick boxing, lifting weights or cardio. Exercise lifts your mood and youths your body. You will de-stress, find more peace and sleep better! Give yourself a makeover. Initially thinking about how sorry your ex will be when he or she sees how fantastic you have become can be fuel for your rebirth. Make yourself more attractive and better inside and out.

Tip 3. Have A ‘New You’ Party

Invite your friends to come over for a ‘New You’ party where they help give you a makeover. Let them go through your clothes and accessories, getting rid of unflattering stuff and putting together some hot looks for the new you. Ask them for referrals to great hair salons or clothing shops. Find a look that makes you feel great. You can also have a big reveal party for yourself.

Tip 4. Get Out There and Date Off- & Online

Start as soon as possible, even if you don’t feel like it. The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll move on. At this moment your chances of meeting the love of your life could be better than ever! The average marriage now lasts under seven years and this means new singles are coming on the scene all the time. Around sixteen million people are now using online dating. You don’t need to worry about getting into a rebound relationship: new research shows that people marrying on the rebound are no more likely to fail than those who wait. Not to worry if you are older: The American Association of Retired Persons found in a recent survey that 70 percent of single baby boomers are actively dating.

Tip 5. Meditation and Relaxation

Johns Hopkins researchers recommend practicing relaxation techniques to get rid of heartache. These include meditation, deep breathing or journaling out your feelings. Practice any or all of these techniques and you will bounce back from loss more rapidly.

You can learn much more about the latest research on and techniques for recovering from heartache in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love

Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on the Today Show. For 25+ years she has helped thousands of single women find love. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations & discussion forum visit http://www.lovein90days.com

Assess Your Stress

Stress – we all feel it on a daily basis, in varying degrees. Some days are much worse than others, while other days, you might even go so far as to say you’re relaxed. But in truth, stress is the norm more than we’d like it to be. And while we might never be completely stress free, we certainly don’t need to be stressed out every day. With Feng Shui, you can begin to lighten the load of stress in your life – all by changing the flow of energy in your life. This way, you can be cool and calm, no matter how much pressure you might have in your life.

You Can Stop the Stress Now

What’s great about Feng Shui is that you don’t have to simply change a few things in your environment and then wait for weeks to see the results. You can make simple changes right now and see results right now.

First of all, you want to assess just how stressed you are in your life. Take a moment to look around the space where you’re feeling the most stressed. If it’s your office, look at your desk and around the room. Where are the areas that are cluttered and messy? Make a note of these spaces and use a Feng Shui bagua to see just where these messes correlate to energy centers. For example, if you notice that the back left hand corner of your office (from the door) is messy, you will find out that you are feeling the most stress about money matters in relation to your job. And thus, you might want to focus on changing that area as well as your outlook in that part of your life.

In addition, you don’t just want to diagnose the clutter, you should be getting rid of it. When you simply leave your physical areas in disorder, you are leaving your mental state in disorder as well. Cleaning up the clutter – and keeping it away – is the best way, hands down, to help you maintain a cool demeanor, no matter the situation.

You will also want to remove any bright colors from your space that might be interfering with your stress levels. Bright reds and oranges are great for energy, but when they’re used in excess, they can also make you feel frazzled. Try to stick with neutral colors and blues to help soothe your anxiety levels. You will also want to add some sort of water element to the space that stresses you out as this will help to calm you even more – a fountain, a picture of water, etc.

Fending Off Stress Attacks

Many of us are constantly under stress because of the type of job we hold. So, in order to use Feng Shui in our lives, we need to make permanent changes to allow for positive energy to flow into our lives at every moment of the day.

Start by making sure your doorways are always free of obstacles and clutter. When you have messes in your doorway areas, you are hindering the flow of healthy energy into your space. In addition, make sure your door can move easily.

Take the time to surround yourself with things and images you love. This will help to bring a smile to your face, no matter what is happening in your world. Think about adding pictures of your family and friends as well as decorative elements that make you feel happy. For some, this might mean adding spiritual sculptures, while others might want to add flowers. Decide what makes you feel calm and happy – and then add it to your life.

Plants are also a great way to reduce the flow of stress in your life. Not only do they provide you with cleaner air naturally, but they also help to transmute the negative energy of your life into something that’s more positive. Play soothing music during the day or CDs with nature sounds so as to help to energize your space with calming tones, but also not so soothing that they lull you to sleep.

While you may never be able to stop stress from being in your life, Feng Shui is always there to soften the blow of another deadline or another crisis you need to handle. Take a breath, make changes, and you’ll be a happier person as a result.

Candace Czarny, ASID, CFM, LEED AP, “Award Winning” Interior Designer, Feng Shui Expert & Author of 20 Minute Feng Shui is continually ranked “Top 10″ in Google and Yahoo. Clients testify of dramatic results!

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